Give Self Sabotage a Kick in the Rear!

Self Sabotage

Intuition is an important tool we all have access to, but it’s up to you how committed you are to developing it.  I find it priceless and have all the time in the world to get to know this best friend! Often times without realizing it and for reasons unknown, we hold ourselves back from achieving greatness or from living a more rewarding and fulfilling life.  Here is part of Laura Warnke’s latest post on self sabotage and intuition:

This is something I think we have all struggled with from time to time. I know I have in the past. We set an intention for something new to come into our lives, and wait for some sign to come to us letting us know we are on the right path.

Just tell me what to do next! Sometimes you think you don’t receive anything and other times it can seem like you are receiving intuitive information that conflicts with one another. It can be enough to get you downright confused. Unfortunately not a lot of action takes place from a point of confusion.

What you need to understand is that confusion is serving you in some manner. The land of confusion keeps us safe from dealing with perceived obstacles. Confusion can be your ego, procrastination, or fear getting in the way and it serves as a convenient means of self-sabotage.

So, here are four ways we sabotage ourselves from hearing our intuition:

  • Deservingness – We can feel as though we are not worthy of too many good things coming into our life and end up engaging in self-sabotage. We in effect push further away what it is we truly desire.
  • Denial of our True Life Purpose – We get invested in what we have created so far in our life and when that does not match our actual life purpose, we can sometimes go into a mode of denial. Perhaps you have a bunch of degrees and now they will not be as useful as they once were. You may have put a large amount of energy into working your way up the corporate ladder only to find yourself feeling empty and unfulfilled. What happens when we go into denial about what we are truly meant to do is that we feel passionless and numb. We feel stuck. That is because at soul level, we need to be aligned with our purpose. When we deny that too long, we can sink into feelings of depression.
  • Indecision – This is the feeling that the grass is always greener. One decision may appear to cut off the other option completely. We want both and we do not want to be forced to choose because that means losing out on the other option. But by not choosing, we only keep running around in circles of indecision. We instead choose indecision and that keeps us thinking we cannot hear our intuition.
  • Fear of Being Wrong or Screwing it up again – Another way we think we receive mixed messages from Spirit is having our ego get in the way. There is nothing wrong with our ego by itself. It is there to keep us safe. But when we look back on events that we deemed as failures our ego steps in and tells us that we should dump that new idea and not pursue something. You need to realize that this is just your ego trying to keep you from being hurt or disappointed. When we end up listening to that, we can easily think we are receiving mixed messages from our intuition. The key is to realize the difference between your intuitive thoughts and your ego.

To read more on Laura Warnke, please visit her useful and informative site, Intuitive Journal, and remember to set aside time to expand your intuitive skills so self sabotage doesn’t get the upper hand!



About Melissa Jeanne Calmes

Pilates & Belly Dance Instructor, Cellist, Yoga Practitioner, Designer--but at the same time, I am none of these...why be limiting?

4 thoughts on “Give Self Sabotage a Kick in the Rear!

  1. Yes! So true about the self saboteur!
    In my practice a great deal of my patients who have a hard time overcoming their obstacles are getting in their own way. I’m so grateful to have learned NET ( Neuro Emotional Technique) so that I may help patients stop sabotaging themselves!
    The technique can be used for people who want to: quit smoking, lose weight, enjoy public speaking, feel confident taking standardized tests, find healthy relationships, love their job, perform on stage, feel worthy, create balance in their lives, have optimal health….and the list goes on and on! Those are just a few examples of what we worked on today!
    Releasing fear is huge.
    Feeling you’re worthy and deserve to release those fears is even Bigger!
    Release and let go.
    Most importantly, Trust yourself.

  2. I think NET is such a useful tool for healing and from the beginning Steph when you first introduced me to it, I have been fascinated by what you do.

    I slowly became aware of self sabotage maybe 15 or so years ago when I found myself making conscious decisions that would only hold me back or even set me back. Over the years I have slowly come to realize how damaging it can be and how it truly keeps one from reaching their fullest and highest potential.

    Steph it’s a gift you have to be able to help people overcome such a harmful behavior pattern that most of us don’t even know exists! Kudos to you love!

    …and regarding intuition, Einstein quotes: “The only real valuable thing is intuition.”

    • I love the quote from Einstein!

      Yes, if ever you find yourself in a cyclical pattern: relationships that are not reciprocal or unloving, jobs that leave you feeling devalued or unappreciated, weight that goes up and down; get it checked and see if you’re self sabotaging!

      One of the best things about NET is breaking that pattern.
      Trust your gut and reintroduce yourself to your intuition; a true gift we are All born with!

  3. Yes Einstein had great intuitive insight into all things, I guess you could say he was a true master. Wish I could have met him!!

    And Steph on another note, I want to thank you, through our NET sessions, I learned to become even more keenly aware of how past emotional issues had manifested in my body influencing my thoughts, moods and actions. You’re gifted, keep doing your THANG!!! I love how you come into it with humor, love and a passion to heal. Love you my dear friend..

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